How to regain parental control

How to regain parental control

Conduct disorders are one of the most difficult behavior disorders to treat. Children with ODD can be very difficult to manage and they can be very difficult for parent. Parents with ODD children feel at times frustrated and helpless and they need support and understanding from others. During my interview with Mr. Alvarez, I asked him what would be some helpful things that parents can do to help their child with ODD. He said that he has found the following guidelines very helpful.

1. How you say it.

You need to establish guidelines with your defiant child. It is important to establish what constitutes, “hitting below the belt.” Make it very clear that you have no intention of cursing at them, yelling or using profanity and so you expect the same from them. Never move on to discussing anything unless they speak to you appropriately. If they are inappropriate or yelling or interrupting address that before you get into anything else.

2. The card you play

Remember that oppositional and defiant children are often betting that you will run out of moves. Don’t make empty threats for consequences that you cannot come through with. Speak softly and carry a big stick. Take inventory of all privileges that your child receives and make it clear that you will not provide anything unless their behavior improves. A therapist should help you develop an effective behavior modification program.

3. Hold the line

Never make unilateral decisions. When important decisions have to be made about your teen conduct a question and answer session with all parents or guardians present. Remain noncommittal and take as long as you have too in order to make a team decision and stick to it.

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Mr. Gerardo Alvarez, LCSW, C.A.P. - Substance Abuse is a Licensed Psychotherapist and Clinical Director of Inspiration for Youth and Families, LLC Treatment Center. For more information you may contact Inspirations via its website: www.InspirationsYouth.com